Hi, I have finally decided to take this real life, after more than a year of reading and chatting and learning about myself and the lifestyle... Figuring out what I want and need. I had come to the conclusion vanilla dating wasnt ever going to work for me. It was juat a matter of accepting this and moving forward. There are dating bdsm sites that will help you meet someone near you if you choose... its not a walk in the park to find someone suitable.... I'm very glad I did though. For me it has basically been like vanilla dating, only a big issue is out of the way from the beginning. It's also been very relieving to not have to deal with frustrating vanilla dating issues. I feel like I'm on track to find what I really need. It took a while. I found extreme patiece and solid common sense are crucial. Good luck!