are all Doms polyamorous?

[voxelectronica]

I'd also have to disagree with IAmCanadian, a harem sounds good to me.

Doesn't it though?

I really like to sit around and think "mmm I would just love to have a sub. My own little girl who I can take care of and develop and be proud of and post her developments up on the fridge"... I would realistically really LOVE that.

I'm not going to turn down an opportunity to have a harem though. No. no, no. I can't quantify how stupid that would be to turn down.

I agree that I personally would rather be upfront about things I like and be told to piss off for it. In the end honesty is how to get everything you want.

That being said I could easily change my mind. Some people just aren't monogamous material. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Not that they're any less awesome. In some ways being able to share your sexuality with someone and really open up that YES you do want that other sub to play with for the night is a gift all in itself.

As far as poly relationships being more stable than mono (not that anyone here has said that directly)... I can't agree with that. Relationships end, change, develop, blossom on their own merits not by involvement. I have been in poly relationships that broke down when they went mono and vise versa.

[sinderella]

I don't think I would call this guy polyamorous. Pathological, maybe. This issue isn't what a Dom does, it's what he says he does. Then you can make an informed choice.

really?

interesting.

when i was with Him, He seemed completely normal in every respect...calm, centered, deliberate....i fell hard for Him......when He wasn't training me, He would take me to nice places i always wanted to go to, like to see "RENT", or the butterfly pavillion......He was so sweet. yes He lied to me but i still love Him. i never got over Him...my latest former interest reminds me of Him a lot, especially in how He talked to me....i wish i were jaded. this all would be so much easier to bear.

I'd say go for it. It's public and safe enough. Always take personal safety into consideration... don't run off in private with someone you don't know! That is common sense, not a BDSM rule. Doesn't matter what lifestyle you choose there are people who can hurt you. Be smart and safe. However I think it would be good for you to meet some people in the lifestyle, you will get a better understanding of how people work. All of us are different in the way we choose to live. I hope you choose to go, and I hope you have a wonderful time!

i didn't get the opportunity. i was helping my son with something that consumed my entire afternoon. next month for sure!

I focus all of my energy on the fulfillment and care of my dear pet.
I can't imagine burning that brightly for multiple women at the same time. My girl radiates through the unpartitioned whole of my life.

omg that is so beautiful. she is a lucky girl, no doubt.

In the end honesty is how to get everything you want.

ok, i am BRONZING that statement. perfection. tYvm.

Yes, IMO, it is very important to make these things clear up front and to be honest about whether I have other subbies - online or r/l. That includes whether or not I'm looking for a relationship period, much less something exclusive.

But that's just me, different people likely have different ways of broaching this subject. I'd rather have her know where I stand, even if it doesn't score points, than deal with drama down the road.

nodding my head, although You can't tell. thank You.

[ghanima{DM690}]

In my vanilla life I have never shared anyone. And yet being owned I share my Dom with another. We talked about it before he began talking with other subs. I found it very interesting that I was not only ok with it but eager to converse with his other sub, she by the way is great!. He has told me I am his number one and I love that but I also let him know that she needs his affection and teachings as well. Its like we are all learning and loving together. I found it is a great fit, but i dont think I could do it with just anyone though. and I dont think I will always be willing to share. yet I feel like it is almost a duty to share the teachings of BDSM to others. But this is just me and doesnt apply to everyone, for those that can great, for those that cant great as well. we all just have to find our fit in the world
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