Role advice

[SilverWulf]

Good response SW, but as a submissive (and according to you an idiot lol) I know that I would never be able to look at a Dominant in the same vein, if he were to submit to me. Even if I were submitting via his orders to inflict pain upon him. Once he's given me that control over him, he couldn't expect to regain it.

I think you may have read my post wrong.

I was speaking specifically of people who say that someone who likes certain activities is not a Dominant because they like said activity.

As a Dom, I suppose you can order your sub to inflict pain upon you, but I'm kinda questioning if you are 100% Dom and thinking that you are a Switch. Now if your sub is a Switch, I guess you have it made.

I can and have ordered My submissive to do a variety of things to and for me. Inflicting pain is not something I enjoy or look for, yet I have had a submissive in the past give me a flogging with a particular heavy flogger. She wasn't strong enough to swing it hard enough to hurt, and I needed a good deep tissue massage after a day at work that was particularly hard on my back... I was not submitting, she was not inflicting pain... she was giving me a massage with a flogger and it worked wonders.

Even though pain is not my thing whatsoever, I do not nor will I ever look down on a Dominant who admits his or her interest in something outside the norm.

Isn't this lifestyle supposed to be accepting of all?

Aren't we all supposed to be able to carve out our own little niche?

Just because something would not work for you in your relationship, does not mean it is wrong for every other relationship out there, and it certainly doesn't deserve to be looked down upon. (not speaking specifically to you blyth)

So are there lots of masochistic Doms out there? hmmmm. Will be interesting to read other views on this topic.

There are more than you can imagine. They are simply hidden in the shadows because of the derision they would receive if they were to admit their desires publicly.