I date vanilla frequently and am currently in a 1+ year vanilla relationship, hoping that'll change by Christmas (the pure vanilla part anyways). I think with my personality it takes a special kind of guy to get along with me seeing as how I am so dominant in my day to day life. It's quite the challenge, finding a Dom who doesn't mind being bossed around. Half of the time my vanilla relationships lead into good switch ones anyways. The ones that don't, don't last. While I don't need a 24/7 lifestyle I do need my partner to throw me a bone every now and again- keeps me from starving.