Quote Originally Posted by jeanne View Post
For those of you who are single and either Dom or sub...do you date 'vanilla'? And if you do, how does that work? Do you at some point tell the other person who you really are, or just keep it to yourself and get those needs met elsewhere?

im a submissive, who has dated vanilla after a bdsm relationship. Lets just say that it sucks! But when you really like the person you are willing to put those "naughty" thoughts on the back burner, for now. I dated two people who were vanilla after my first bdsm relationship. I kept it a secret that i was into bdsm to them both until i felt like we were in the right place in our relationship to let the cat outa the bag so to speak. They were both okay with it (let me point out, i didnt date them at the same time.) or so they said. Nothing ever came of the bdsm conversation we had. I wasnt being tied up, spanked or anything of that nature. So instead of being stuck in those relationships, i broke them off. Did i like them? Yes. Could i be with them for a long period of time without ANY bdsm involved? I think not.