Quote Originally Posted by gothichippiechick View Post
I have a few questions for those of you who are parents out there-


What are some particular speedbumps you've hit in this area due to being a parent?

Do your children know about your interests?

If you had a choice would you mind one way or the other if your children were into BDSM when they got older? (Not with you, let's leave any incest out on this one please.)

In the community how protective are you when it comes to identifying yourself as a parent/talking about your kids? Do you ever worry about that whole "online" aspect here?

If you are a sub, do you see raising your children as another act of being a good sub to your partner or do you take a different position/differentiate? Please describe your views of your position as a mother/father vs your position as a sub.

If you are a dom, do you find your parenting style to be authoritarian? Please describe the differences in your treatment of your child vs your partner.


Feel free to add any general thoughts you have on the topic, even if it isn't an answer to one of these Q's.
Well, my Master and I have two children... one is 12 (boy) and the other is 1 (girl). At just a year old, I can't really know yet how we might choose to raise her differently and our relationship is way different now that when our son was little, so that's a factor.

Really, the kids don't affect our lifestyle much. We are pretty open in front of them (except where it could obviously cause damage to them). Our son understands it as something of a stepladder power structure... my Master on top, me the next step down, then the kids equally, followed by any other females that might be involved in our dynamic (though that is not such an issue now that we don't live with other partners). We have had live ins in the past... with that we *tried* to be very careful who we brought in and that he didn't get too attached. That was a failure on both counts...live and learn.

We would find it pretty cool if they happened to find themselves in the lifestyle, when they are older. No, I don't think we would fear for their safety any more than in any culture or sub-culture available...there are always risks- with any relationship.

Nope...don't worry a bit about online. Most people can't get off their butts long enough to get a beer much less go through the hassle of tracking, stalking, and finding people. If our ex-girlfriend hasn't physically found us, I doubt most people would either...she was a terrific stalker...I'll give her that much. Oh, and we do not participate in ANY r/l events, clubs, parties etc... we have vanilla friends who are kink friendly and that is it. So, that one is non-applicable.

Parenting has absolutely zero to do with our relationship dynamic. Master has never usurped my parenting decisions nor I his, and we generally make all choices regarding the kids together... I am most certainly NOT submissive in dealings with our kids... for god's sake...the slightest show of weakness and they'd overthrow the "government" lol.