What are some particular speedbumps you've hit in this area due to being a parent?

Explaining why there is a certain room in the house that he can never never go into, how much to tell him, what he will think of me/will he respect me if he finds out I am submissive.

Do your children know about your interests?

No. Not directly, but he is a very bright boy - and occasionally he has said some things that make me wonder how much exactly he understands (he is almost 11) because he has made it obvious that he notices the difference between Our relationship and the relationships that parents of his friends share.

If you had a choice would you mind one way or the other if your children were into BDSM when they got older? (Not with you, let's leave any incest out on this one please.)

I don't know if he will develop an interest into bdsm, but he has already began exhibiting a definite dominant streak (with his peers and with girls). I don't care either way - as long as I don't know anything about it, lol.

In the community how protective are you when it comes to identifying yourself as a parent/talking about your kids?

I take precautions to hide my R/L identity, but I have no problem saying that I am a parent.

Do you ever worry about that whole "online" aspect here?

Not really. In fact, it would be kind of cool for him to find my blog and read it some day - to know about his father and I, and how much we loved each other and him - after I am LONG DEAD.

If you are a sub, do you see raising your children as another act of being a good sub to your partner or do you take a different position/differentiate?

No, absolutely not. That point of view never even occurred to me.

Please describe your views of your position as a mother/father vs your position as a sub.

To quote my Husband, I am personally submissive (to Him) but equal in all else.

If you are a dom, do you find your parenting style to be authoritarian?

I am not a dom, lol, but I had touched on this in many of my posts and a few blog entries so I am going to answer it.

No, His parenting style is anything but authoritarian. He is a wonderful father, He is trying to spend as much time as He can with our boy, teach him to do stuff and install basic values in him. He always treats his son as a little person who has his own identity and is worthy of respect. But He is also very aware that He is his father, not friend and that children need a sense of discipline and security.

Please describe the differences in your treatment of your child vs your partner.

We do not use corporal punishment, if thats what you mean. As for the rest, I am not sure how to answer it. My Husband may be a very dominant personality, but He is not a domineering psycho that runs around issuing mindless orders, lol. I am His wife and partner, we share as normal (though unique) relationship like all other couples. Our son is a child, and we treat him as such and we try to be the best parents possible, except maybe unconsciously transmitting love, we do not expose him to our private lifestyle, no more than other parents do their kids to their sex lives and interrelationship.