Quote Originally Posted by frostbite99 View Post
i have been experimanting with BDSM for a little while now, i have always thought till now i knew what i was and was definate about my role in my relationship as a dom. however the more i have been reasearching the lifestyle the more i have found i enjoy certain pain aspects like candlewax and wipping, i have always thought of these as sub based activities and as a dom i am unsure as to weather it is ok for me to like these things,

can i get my sub to inflict pain on me and still be the dom or have i become a switch and should give my sub some control
i know that i am but a neophyte in the lifestyle, with little experience, but would still wish to offer my humble point of view.
To me, being DaddyJims sub means honouring Him without conditions or judgment. If He were to command that princess should do anything that pleased Him, my only responsibility would be to comply with the greatest adoration of Him. i respectfully concur with SilverWulf that, if demanded properly by You as the DOM, your sub should not loose respect for You. i am not capable of any loss of respect for DaddyJim due to our mutual admiration and equality in the relationship we have. For us, i am aware things are somewhat different as we are bound, not only in the lifestyle, but our hearts and souls, as well. However, in my intense study of the practices of BDSM, i am becoming very aware that there really are no "hard and fast rules", only what You and Your sub agree works for you both within whatever level your relationship occupies. i offer this with respect and most sincere hopes that i have assisted You in some small way. Blessed Be!