Quote Originally Posted by cadence View Post
I'm still of the opinion, you can't really give yourself enough pain with certain things to really know where your threshold lies.

More fact than opinion...in my opinion.

Miss Confused, until you're laying on that spiked mat with a very sadistic Dom's boot on your back, pushing you down onto the spikes until the blood runs and you find yourself in need of your safe word, you will most likely not find your limits. Self-preservation mechanisms usually kick in and prevent a soul from going to such places alone. It's the dynamic and interaction between a Dominant and submissive that helps one realize just where the edge is...and whether one wants to fall off it or not.

Maybe these ideas can start to give you an idea of what type of pain works for you. Have fun and be safe.