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[dapperling]

I couldn't believe that your's was the first post I have ever read on this site- it was like deja vu reading my own story!! I admire your honesty, even if you wish to remain anonymous its still incredible that you can express you're feelings and experiences so openly. Im 25yrs old female living in the UK( if you know anything about the UK its in the county called Essex- leopard print and 12yr olds with bawling babies in their arms... not exactly the cultural capital). Am still a virgin, and living with a very sexually active married couple that after seven years together still come home horney and have rampant sex just to say "hi honey missed you".... needless to say it bugs me that I'm still single, living with people and still a virgin!

Unlike you my family isnt the reason I haven't had sex yet, its just that im a very submissive person when it comes to anything of a sexual nature and I have yet to meet someone who is patient enough to coax me out of my shell. Have only recently realised that the things that make my heart beat faster and my orgasms stronger generally dont tend to be the normal things people get up to. I love playing mind games with myself and punishing myself with nipple clamps or clothes pegs ( when i say punish, who am i kidding I love it!)... not sure about you but trust is a BIG issue for me...

I cant tell you what a relief it is to know Im not the only inexperienced yet curious person out there. not sure about you but all of my friends have had sex, and every guy i meet expects that I have too so it always creates this level of inequality that I cant seem to balance- throws my karma out if you know what i mean

Its been great chatting to you, hope you find what your looking for here! I for one feel slight better having met a fellow newbie in this wonderfully complex world of BDSM

[sk8192379]

Dapperling, I feel so much better as well! Thank you so much for your kind reply. Actually, let me clarify first, that my family is not the only reason I have not yet had sex, and don't plan to until marriage. Its actually my beliefs about seperate issue that motivate my decision. One of my main goals in life is to be a mom. I love babies and can't wait to have them. I know I would never personally want to use protection/ prevent pregnancy in any way, and if I were to have sex now, it would be suicide for me in so many different ways. Number one, my parents would kill me, number two, I don't have the money to support a child and I am focused on completing my education first as well. Secondly, and most importantly, I am against abortion in all ways. I personally feel that it is the murder of an unborn child and therefore would never have one. I figure the only other logical decision for me to make would be to wait until I am ready to be a parent, and I'm hoping by that time I will be settled down with somebody, similar to myself in certain ways. The final reason, is like you, I can only be aroused and/or satisfied in certain ways... I can't get excited by the touch of my own skin. And I need to have something particularly kinky in mind to get that point. I need someone who can satisfy me in this way. I haven't even started looking for that someone yet. I do believe in destiny though, so I feel that when the time is right, he and I will find each other (at least I hope). I'm also not looking for a one night stand / or steady relationship. I'm looking for a life long partner.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I look forward to chatting with you more in the future. It really is a comfort to know I'm not alone.