I couldn't believe that your's was the first post I have ever read on this site- it was like deja vu reading my own story!! I admire your honesty, even if you wish to remain anonymous its still incredible that you can express you're feelings and experiences so openly. Im 25yrs old female living in the UK( if you know anything about the UK its in the county called Essex- leopard print and 12yr olds with bawling babies in their arms... not exactly the cultural capital). Am still a virgin, and living with a very sexually active married couple that after seven years together still come home horney and have rampant sex just to say "hi honey missed you".... needless to say it bugs me that I'm still single, living with people and still a virgin!

Unlike you my family isnt the reason I haven't had sex yet, its just that im a very submissive person when it comes to anything of a sexual nature and I have yet to meet someone who is patient enough to coax me out of my shell. Have only recently realised that the things that make my heart beat faster and my orgasms stronger generally dont tend to be the normal things people get up to. I love playing mind games with myself and punishing myself with nipple clamps or clothes pegs ( when i say punish, who am i kidding I love it!)... not sure about you but trust is a BIG issue for me...

I cant tell you what a relief it is to know Im not the only inexperienced yet curious person out there. not sure about you but all of my friends have had sex, and every guy i meet expects that I have too so it always creates this level of inequality that I cant seem to balance- throws my karma out if you know what i mean

Its been great chatting to you, hope you find what your looking for here! I for one feel slight better having met a fellow newbie in this wonderfully complex world of BDSM