how to spot an arsehole

[damyanti]

Well, I did try to pick your shoes, so I guess I will make special allowances for you, Oz.

Besides, everyone knows you are harmless.

[DIXIE LASS]

From Damyanti:

An absolute red flag is...those who send you PMs within the first 24-48 hours of joining the Forum. They monitor new members and hope to get to them while they are most vulnerable, before they get some good advice, confidence, some experience and make real friends. This is a major creep alert!


If they get angry easily...especially after you catch them lying.

You just dont like the tone of him....your gut tells you he is a fake. Trust your instinct.

I dont like it when they call me names (girl, slut, dear...) when we have no such familiarity established.

They talk almost exclusively in abbreviations. I am not an unreasonable person, I make allowances for: lol, p.s., btw, but when he appears to be unfamiliar with the concept of whole sentences and his idea of getting to know you is "asl" (age, sex, location...yeah, I didnt know that either, )...it may not mean that they are a bad person, but it means we dont have much in common.

Infantilism (I mean in vanilla sense, not as a fetish), like I said this is just my personal beef...but I have zero interest in someone who cant hold a normal conversation.

Requests for picture within first ten minutes...and if you say no, they ask for it again ten minutes later. Sorry, but I am not that stupid or lax about my own personal safety.

Damyanti's newbie friends need to pay attention. The seven rules above are excellent advice.

From Damyanti:

Those who send you Friendship requests when you had no interaction with them, (neither in chat, forum posts or even PMs).

This one I might argue with. Some new members are too shy and reserved to go into chat or do any posting. Therefore, they really aren't interacting with anyone. To me, the friendship request serves as a "notice" that someone might be interested. The new member can then check out their profile, their prior posts, etc. and decide if they feel a mutual interest and want to explore it further or run like hell. Many of you have expressed extreme irritation with this habit of wholesale friendship requests but I don't see it as a bad thing and it doesn't bother me. Additionally, a "good" guy who sends one may also be very shy and reserved. This may be as bold an advance as he is able to make.

Dittos on using male nouns and pronouns. Overall, Damyanti's post is a really good summary.


DIXIE

[Ozme52]

besides, everyone knows you are harmless.

lmao