Yours is a lovely and genuine query, B, and please rest assured there are people here who feel about 'the lifestyle' exactly as you do. Really, not everyone here is fully 24/7 or has given over their whole lives to slavery. Sometimes folk express their aspirations and desires in such language on line but in real life it may not be so much like that. The Library is a great place to find things out, so read the stories and the threads and join in with questions or comments. Find out what BDSM means to you, who you are, how you fit in, and what you want. But never feel you have to mould yourself to fit a perceived 'norm'. It doesn't exist, as I hope you'll soon find out.

I look for relationship first and foremost and I must get to know someone really well before I let them in. I am by no means 24/7 although I enjoy knowing my submission is a very real part of me and I enjoy carrying that secret knowledge day to day. I get on with my real life, which is most of my life, and for me, BDSM is means of fulfilling my deepest desires, maintained on line with my lovely long-distance Master, and acted out with a passion every few months as our circumstances permit.

Welcome to the Library, B. Hope to see you around. x x