Thank you all again.

I am not concerned that I dont want want a 24/7 life style, I know that isn't what I want, I was just lost in the fact that there are few doms to subs out there (Female to Male) that the competition to find someone that way inclined and convince them to try to risk a little time on you is a little daunting when I feel I am out bid on how far I will go. at the moment.

You have all been very helpful as I try to shift my perspective on if I am wasting my time and also (unexpectedly) helping me to clarify to myself what it is that I want.

it does lead me to the question of without promising more of yourself than you can deliver (and I am willing to deliver a fair bit) how do you approach a dom. Even just for emailed questions on entering the lifestyle. I get the impression that the doms are spoilt for choice (and you could argue that that is rightly so. lol)