hi,
i am so glad you posted such a question. i have been interested in bdsm for a couple months now and found this site just a few days ago. the good thing here is, it has clarified quite a lot of terms and concepts i had misunderstood before.....
BUT
on the other hand it has raised so many more questions concerning myself.
reading some of the comments has really overwhelmed me because i couldnīt see it happening for/to me. and i had started to doubt myself if i am even submissive or not. i thought, "thats toooooo much", maybe iīm "just" into kinky sex after all.

to read that there are others who are struggling just as much as i am is a great relief. thank you

the best of wishes to you

lg, nicole