Why do many BDSM people look down on switches?

[JamesMDenton]

I know I'm a bit late to the thread, but I'm pretty new here, and this subject is one of the main reasons that I've avoided the "Scene". A brief background before I explain my thoughts.

I got into BDSM in a Dominant role, and for quite a while it stayed that way, until she asked if she could "try" being the Dom, and being pretty open to trying new things, as a reward, I let her. And it was a completely new experience. I really enjoyed it, but in a completely different way than Domming. I wouldn't even say the two are interchangeable, because to me it's as unique as between hunger and thirst. The difference being I wouldn't consider either more necessary than the other.

The argument could be made that I was never truly subbing due to it being more of a 'reward', but I disagree, it was just a different way of being intimate.

That said, I would probably only consider switching with the same person if it was a loving committed relationship. Otherwise I don't think I'd even have the desire to switch it up.

In addition, I can't stress enough how much switching has made me "better" at the opposing role. It gives you a completely new understanding, and I would feel more confident with a sub or a Dom if I knew they had at least tried the other way.

That's what I've got right now, hopefully it makes sense, I've been up entirely too long.

- J

[thir]

I know I'm a bit late to the thread,

No problem, many threads go on for a long time. Besides, we cannot all sit at the pc 24/7 ;-0

but I'm pretty new here, and this subject is one of the main reasons that I've avoided the "Scene". A brief background before I explain my thoughts.

Would you like to elaborate a bit on that?

In addition, I can't stress enough how much switching has made me "better" at the opposing role. It gives you a completely new understanding, and I would feel more confident with a sub or a Dom if I knew they had at least tried the other way.

That's what I've got right now, hopefully it makes sense, I've been up entirely too long.

Certainly it does, many of us have had the same kind of experience.

I hope you feel welcome here, and want to post more.