Clamps on the clit?

[Arria]

yama - don´t ever let anyone make you think of yourself as a "bad sub" just because you cannot/will not participate in any particular action.

It takes all sorts. All subs I met in real life are into different things. Some of them are not even masochists at all. There is no such thing as a "real sub", and please steer clear of anyone who tries to make you believe that.
Such statements are usually made by wannabe doms who don´t care about your well-being, and they use those statements to force you into an action they like, while you don´t like it. No one has a right to do that. (I am talking about hard limits here. Soft limits should be tested. If it is something you have never done, but are curious about, go ahead and try it. I don´t remember how many things I thought I would not like/could not bear, and hubby proved the opposite. *g*)

As for the clamp/clip thing: I can bear clamps (alligator clamps) on my nipples, and on my clit, but not on the pussy lips. It just feels wrong there.

The only persons who have the right to decide what is right/important in your relationship is you and your partner. Not anyone else. There is no such thing as a BDSM relationship rule valid for all. Except, maybe, that both/all partners in a relationship should be comfortable with what´s going on.

But that should be understood by common sense, and be made sure in any relationship - BDSM or vanilla.

[yama]

Soft limits should be tested. If it is something you have never done, but are curious about, go ahead and try it.

Thank you very much, Arria. Now I can see that I must try it. If only to prove to myself that I am not a coward. Your whole post is very clever and educative, but the quoted sentence is decisive.

I hope I will be able to show Lila new things she can do with me. :

It is very interesting that there are subs who aren't masochists. Do they enjoy being controlled?

Thanks again.

[Ozme52]

It is very interesting that there are subs who aren't masochists. Do they enjoy being controlled?

Some do. Some revel in giving something to their dominant that is difficult for them.

They match up well with doms who aren't necessarily full blown sadists, who need to see that unconditional submission.

There is no limit to the variety of tops and bottoms and dominants and subs and masters and slaves nor the various combinations thereof.