Thank you really, the clear distinction between hard and soft limits seems very important. The post of Arria (post #7) emphasized the same.

Please, my dear friend, if you have time, read my post which is #20. It says that, in my case, putting clamps on my clit proved to be a soft limit. It is extremely painful, but I am not afraid of it any more. Perhaps the reason of my fear was that is was an undiscovered area. My pussy was the place of intimate tenderness and pleasure, but not the area of pain. Now I am over this period. If I am told to put clamps on my clit, I will do so, and love it.

And, dear friend, I haven't a Dom only a female friend who is stumbling in the world of BDSM like myself. But she is a dear, and she wields the whip effectively. My back is still sore from her last activity. I love her very much indeed, and being punished by her is a treat.

Thank you again for your helpfulness. Your post increased the inner security that I gained by the posts of others. You are a splendid guy, I am grateful.

Yama




Quote Originally Posted by Bobbitsj View Post
yama, There is nothing wrong with having limits. Clamping your clit might be something you fear and want nothing to do with. You could make it a hard limit and the subject would never come up again. On the other hand you might fear it and think maybe in time you might want to try just to please your Dom so you could call it a soft limit meaning maybe in time you'd try.

I am a male sub who has both hard and soft limits. My Mistress enjoys pushing my soft limits and always respects my hard limits. I think and Dominant would do the same.