Quote Originally Posted by Arria View Post
What I find aggravating is the new trend (at least hereabouts, in Germany), that all of a sudden the majority of people seem to think EVERYBODY is basically a switch, and they try and force that opinion unto others like me, who has not a switching bone in her body.
They are extremely patronizing, and they (not that I had asked their opinion) run around, announcing everyone who does not switch is "suppressing" that other half, and has a problem, and should try it, or rather, the partner one is with should let his partner try it.
Itīs crackbrained. And I do not believe half of the switches who run around nowadays are for real.
It's happening here, too. However, I have been on the receiving end of "you aren't really a switch." I find it also to be extremely patronizing to be called "a sub who likes to top." There has been only one person I wanted to dominate on a full-time basis, but she only wanted to play. As soon as I found that out, I had no interest in topping her anymore, even though I top others I have no interest in dominating full-time. *shrugs* With her, I wanted it all or nothing.

My switching is based on who I'm with, and you're right about part of you being unfulfilled at times. It all comes down to what you need the most. I can give up topping to be with a dom who doesn't allow playing outside. I can't give up being submissive to be a dom full-time.