Since you're not posting this behind his back, he must know that you have to turn it into violation in your head in order to enjoy it. So you're doing it the way he wants in order to please him, like a good sub; what's not to like?
I guess it's the difference between letting in a guest and having an intruder kick down the door. And people who don't like having guests do experience every visit as an intrusion.hm... what is it like for 'nilla people when they have sex? how does one not feel like they are being violated when a cock is being thrust inside?