Quote Originally Posted by flying66{Zinsho} View Post
I came to a realization this morning... whenever I have intercourse with my Master it HAS to be a D/s dynamic...
That's usually the way it works. *smiles* The dynamic doesn't stop just because you're not scening. It's always there. It's who you are.

To me, there should be no such thing as vanilla sex with a dom. It has to be kinky to be satisfying. That's why I'm with a dom and not a 'nilla guy, right?! If we have "normal" sex too many times in a row, which is only about twice, I begin having difficulties, i.e. vaginal dryness and inability to achieve orgasm. I just can't do it. While we might not always have time for a full-blown play session, he now tries to always incorporate something whether it be placing his hand over my nose and mouth, holding me down, pinching my nipples, or talking dirty...usually a combination of 2 or more. Also, I can't be on top without having dommy feelings. It must show....'cause he hurts me more in that position than any other. heh heh

So, you know you're not vanilla....I don't really see what the problem is.