mental masochism?

[Flaming_Redhead]

That's a misleading definition and a popular misconception. I'm not one of those people who can reach orgasm from pain. Pain does not convert to pleasure. Pain is pain, but I like it anyway because I'm perverse and enjoy things I don't like. *lol* To answer your question....yes, Virginia, there is a mental aspect. It doesn't have to be physical discomfort. For example, it seems I'm attracted to men I can't have. I'm not happy if I know I've got him right where I want him. It makes no sense. I say I don't enjoy worrying about relationship stuff, but surely I must 'cause I keep doing it....*shrugs* And I think he knows since he's the one who commented that I only want what I can't have....so maybe he's giving me what I want? hahahahahaha How fucked up is that??? Okay, now y'all know how really crazy I am!

masochism: (n)

1. The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused.
2. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself.
3. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences.

[cadence]

I think what you are trying to say isn't really a form of masochism, to me it's basically you striving to be pleasing and to please your Master.

I would think that others go through the same thing as well. It's the waiting that makes you more edgy. It is a self infliction that you do to yourself, and I don't really know what you can do to make the waiting better.

I at times used to feel that way, but I have since learned not to worry about it. Regardless as to how long I wait for a response, it's not going to change. It's learning how to deal with patience, waiting and knowing that you've done your best.

[guest010609]

That's a misleading definition and a popular misconception. I'm not one of those people who can reach orgasm from pain. Pain does not convert to pleasure. Pain is pain, but I like it anyway because I'm perverse and enjoy things I don't like. *lol* To answer your question....yes, Virginia, there is a mental aspect. It doesn't have to be physical discomfort. For example, it seems I'm attracted to men I can't have. I'm not happy if I know I've got him right where I want him. It makes no sense. I say I don't enjoy worrying about relationship stuff, but surely I must 'cause I keep doing it....*shrugs* And I think he knows since he's the one who commented that I only want what I can't have....so maybe he's giving me what I want? hahahahahaha How fucked up is that??? Okay, now y'all know how really crazy I am!

masochism: (n)

1. The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused.
2. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself.
3. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences.

I can't say it better, so why try?