Online relationship commitment

[shayna{L_D}]

...I find real-life experiences to be far superior to anything I could imagine online.

I like what you said there jeanne.

I do not rule out online relationships only becuase i know so many people that have made it work. Found there other half on the internet (vanilla or not) and then got married to them, still together and happy as fricken flies on shit

That being said, ive had a few online relationships, one worked out great until he went psycho on me. Thats besides the point. Either way it can work out, if there is open communication and understanding on both ends.

I just recently (within the last two months) ventured offline and had some real BDSM expierences. Like jeanne said, online CANNOT compare to real life, period. It just cant, its a fact. Kissing a man or woman in real life is always going to be better then kissing, say the air, or computer screen. Or getting a beating from your Master is better then giving it to yourself. That being said, does it mean that people that are in online relationships are getting the shitty end of the stick? No not at all. Being online has its advantages. Just becuase you two cant be with each other physically doenst mean you arnt growing and learning about each other.

I in fact found the one i am with right now (in real life) off this library, im not saying we were online lovers at first but you can find love online. Although i am pretty sure that wasnt your main question.

My main deal with online relationships is how do you know they are doing as you ask? Pictures, web cam? What if they dont have that, how do you know your even talking to the said human? How do you know that he/she doesnt have ten more subs on the side? This is all here nor there.

If it makes you happy it cant be that bad.

[angelic.zest]

My main deal with online relationships is how do you know they are doing as you ask? Pictures, web cam? What if they dont have that, how do you know your even talking to the said human? How do you know that he/she doesnt have ten more subs on the side? This is all here nor there.

If it makes you happy it cant be that bad.

You just dont know, thats where trust, determination, and communication comes in. There are alot of ppl who just want online, and thats good for them. Me i know i want something more "in the flesh", and i will get that. But trust has to be there, if its not there, then no type of relationship will work. No matter how much time you spend with them, or think he/she is committed.

[cadence]

My main deal with online relationships is how do you know they are doing as you ask? Pictures, web cam? What if they dont have that, how do you know your even talking to the said human? How do you know that he/she doesnt have ten more subs on the side? This is all here nor there.

There isn't really any way anyone can know if the other is being truthful and honest.
I asked a Domme one time as to how they could determine who is really being genuine on line.
She said that the ones who do everything they are told without any problems are the ones who are usually lying.
The ones who never seem to have difficulty with tasks, and say everything they think the Dominant wants.
That's not saying that all submissives who do this are lying, but most aren't being very truthful.

That being said, slave and submissive are just relative words, and it depends on what they mean to you personally.
I am submissive; I can also consider myself a slave as well. I don't think I have to give anyone a definate reason either, it's how I feel.

Yes you can successfully have an online relationship, but that depends on what you want out of it.
You definately cannot compare real life to online only because of the lack of physical interaction. If you can live without the physical and you can trust the other person, it's not impossible, it can work.
Being submissive is all about the mind and being online can enhance that submissive feeling. The only drawback is that basically you are doing everything on your own, and only have conversations with your Dominant.

[jeanne]

I asked a Domme one time as to how they could determine who is really being genuine on line.
She said that the ones who do everything they are told without any problems are the ones who are usually lying.
The ones who never seem to have difficulty with tasks, and say everything they think the Dominant wants.
That's not saying that all submissives who do this are lying, but most aren't being very truthful.

Thanks for saying this, cadence. Once in a while my Owner will give me a task when we are apart. Well, life is life and I don't always get to do the task when He'd prefer. I could lie and say "Yes, I did have an orgasm last night just the way you told me to" when the truth is I fell into bed exhausted and tried for a little while and just couldn't get there. It's silly for me to lie about something like that to make Him feel "Domly" when I know for an absolute fact that He prefers me to be real and truly me with Him.