Quote Originally Posted by lucky#13 View Post
THANK YOU ALL... it has been very helpful... i will try to be more patient.. but i also know part of my problem is even when they are willing to i feel guilty and fake it b/c they will try sooo hard and long...
Yes... this is an easy trap to fall into and many women do it. The trouble is that by doing this you do set the bar low. This means that your partners will think that it will always be that easy to get you to cum and so will stop trying after that length of time even if you don't fake it that time in a 'but it worked last time!' sort of way.

My advice would be to let them get on with it and not worry about it. Chances are your anxiety about not cumming is what is impeding you and the longer you worry the less likely you are to cum. Its difficult to do so (I know this because I had to do the same thing) but you need to forget about the orgasm completely - lose yourself in the moment and stop intellectualising the process in a 'oh, if I don't cum soon he's going to get bored' sort of way.

Best way is to become a Domme. You'll then have hundreds of kinky, submissive men begging to let them spend hours servicing you for as long as needed. Some of them will even pay for the privelege and won't expect recipricol orgasms in return

not to mention a HUGE turn on and part of why i still have sex sooo much is to please my partner... i can definently cum myself but only in one particular way.. with all my weight on my hand and not even any fingers inserted inside me.. complete clitorial stimulation.. there seems to be no other position that has worked for me..
Tell your partners what has worked when you are alone and guide them into how to do it. Experiment and play with it until he gets it right.

i have tried many others... as for toys i myself have used a few vibrators (not a rabbit though) and like guys when they go down on me i am stuck at the edge but cant go over... it is more torcher then enjoyment which would be fun if i was tormented for a long while but eventually was permitted to cum hehe... anyways the guys i have been with considering they have all been vanilla tend to be scared of using toys.. seeing them as intimidating to their own sexual power.. i have mentioned it a couple of times to them and i always seem to get that weird look like are u fucking kidding me.. excuse the language..
I understand this fear of sexual inadequecy from your partners (all men feel it, at least initially). You need to find some way to boost their fragile male ego and reassure them that it is not their inadequecy that is causing this problem. [*slightly joking*] maybe you could make it a competition 'oh, no man has ever made me cum. Perhaps you are man enough to do it?'