Well for me a doormat would bore me to fucking tear have you ever seen the movie coming to america? the princess for eddy murphy? he keeps asking her questions about what she likes? all she says is whatever you like your highness......well a sub that is that way would do nothing for me sounds odd coming from me...but one that just lets me do whatever i wanted would last maybe a week lol i want to see her struggle to submit to me i want her to share with me her darkest needs her darkest fantasies and i will share mine as well. i am a sadist but i do have fobels i want them to want every bit of delicous pain i can dole out to them if they want it and i want to do it its all good in my book....but yes a strong will and a mind of her own, knows what she wants when to push me so i can push her back hehe