Yeah hook some elctrodes up to my virginia and see if I aint aroused? lol
Yeah hook some elctrodes up to my virginia and see if I aint aroused? lol
When love beckons to you, follow him,Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you yield to him, Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound thee
KAHLIL GIBRAN, The Prophet
I'm curious that about half of the replies here agree that women aren't in touch with their bodies, and the other half emphasize the degree to which their brains are erogenous. Seems like two intentions; one in which women "fail" and the other in which we "fail" to listen to women. My same colleague said that she has been thinking that she's supposed to respond to sexual stimulus that doesn't really do anything for her. I'm surprised what strikes me suddenly; cold, hard concrete against the soles of my feet

This could be all the same thing from different perspectives. Let's posit for a second that the accepted cultural assumptions about what women find appealing are wrong (what ever they are). Someone growing up will be bombarded with the message that they are supposed to be attracted to "x". If the message is pervasive enough a woman could go a long time, including quite a few sexual experiences, without ever having encountered something which she was actually attracted to. She wouldn't have the proper sense of association built up to link the sensation brought around with physical arousal. Now, the average woman on this site isn't going to fit that profile as she has obviously achieved the recognition that the cultural assumption is wrong for her (else she wouldn't be going against it), which would require making the correct associations between situation and response....one in which women "fail" and the other in which we "fail" to listen to women. My same colleague said that she has been thinking that she's supposed to respond to sexual stimulus that doesn't really do anything for her.
End result:
Women out of touch with their sexuality: True (on average)
Female voice ignored: True (drowned out by the cultural onslaught)
Feeling like she is supposed to respond to sexual stimulus that doesn't really do anything for her: True
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Last edited by Carpe Coma; 02-01-2009 at 09:41 PM.
I beg to differ about women being out of touch with their bodies. For example, I know of cases where women have been sexually abused or assaulted and have had orgasms. These women were not turned on or aroused by what was happening to them, quite the opposite as I'm sure you know. But we are unable to control the response our bodies have. Just because I get wet watching monkey porn doesn't mean that I like watching it or that I feel like having sex. I think that women are complex, not out of touch, and that we are capable of having a physical response that is at complete odds with what we're feeling and experiencing in our heads.
As I think about it more, I believe that it makes sense evolutionary wise as well. Women who's vaginas got lubricated when raped would be less likely to be injured, a clear advantage.
I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”
~Anais Nin
Seeing as this is a subject near and dear (brain studies, not monkey sex), I'm going to venture forth and comment.
This is but one study on the workings of the female mind. Findings on this multi-faceted topic from only once source are inconclusive at best. Women's brains are so vastly different than a male's (note- I didn't say better, just different). A female's ability to process emotional stimuli functions in an entirely different way (note again- different, not better) than a male's ability. Many, many areas of a woman's brain go into gear when exposed to any information, sexual info included. And all that incoming info, for a woman with a typically functioning brain (ie. no brain injury or damage), will most definitely be handled by multiple areas in the brain, including those dealing with emotional function. And sexual feelings, again for a woman, provoke strong emotional responses.
Upon viewing the scenes presented in that study, multiple areas of the female brain, collectively even, will respond on some level. Women see the monkey scene and think, "I remember when my first true love took me to the zoo and we spent the whole day laughing and talking...then later, he bought me a beautiful red rose in front of the restaurant where he told me he loved me for the first time...and later on that night, we made sweet, sweet love." Men, on the other hand, have limited avenues, perhaps only one or two, available to respond to emotional stimuli. They see the monkey scene and think, "monkey sex does nothing for me...next please" and respond accordingly. Because of how the brain works for each gender, the ability to respond is quite different for each. Liken it to using a search engine- men type in a particular subject, and one, maybe two or three, options pop up. That's all those men have to work with. Women, however, type in the same particular subject, and 2 million options appear. A vast difference.
It's not that women are out of touch with their bodies, not at all. Rather, women are completely in touch in more varied and complex ways than are men. That's all.
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I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”
~Anais Nin
I liked you post very much. However, I am curious about the 'collective' function which that study was trying to map versus your explanation regarding a positive memory link. If a woman had a negative link, then the 'collective' arousal would not pan out. Or am I missing something here.
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