I am fairly new to the lifestyle, and I really enjoy everything so far... I just have some questions that I am having a hard time answering for myself.

First off I am in my early 20's and am currently involved with my first sub. She is very wonderful, and obeys very well. I just am having a hard time knowing when to tone down my commands... I feel as though she should listen to me always, and we should respect each other's concerns, but I can't quite judge when I need to tone it down. i/e: public situations?

How do I judge her opinion/concerns about some of my commands when she always does as I say without question?

Thanks