This thread is very old, but I wanted to say that I can relate to the idea of fighting one's submission. There have been times when I've been unable to feel submissive and have felt more, what's the word, spiteful, cocky, resistant. For me, this is when my trust in my Dom has been lost-- or for other reasons, in our day to day life I am angry at him and not feeling close to him. If I can work out the real life issue, then I am able to submit again to his punishment, pain and dominance.