I think Dr. BuzzCzar's response closely resembles my experience. Especially the respect and love at taking in hand this wonderful gift that has been given me.

But I will start my experience by saying that I perform improvisational theater. We never know what we are going to say on stage but it always seems to work, because we know each other so well.

Working with a loved and respected sub is the same experience for me. Before we get together I can be nervous and start to worry that I am not up to the challenge (just like before a show) and then when we begin I am totally in the moment.

I may have a plan at the beginning but it changes as we continue. Because I am reacting to all the sensory input. I am totally focused on her (Of course I am excited, but my focus is on her excitement). We are working together to bring us both extreme pleasure.

As for my friend, damyanti's question, I enjoy the responsibility. And it thrills me that this person has put all her trust in me. That I am going to take care of her need for pain or discipline or control, while keeping her safe and happy and excited beyond measure and that excitement is going to excite me beyond measure.

And I want to add that, like the good Dr., respect is essential and love is being built and nurtured as well.

I hope this helps.