Is there such a thing as giving up too much control?
i completely agree with denu on this one, the only amount of control that you can give that is too much is when it's taken by force. A good Dom would be able to make you feel safe enough to give Him as much as you're able to. i never thought i'd be able to give up the amount of control that i have, until the situation/dynamic (and the relationship) developed.

Should they have your email and website subscription passwords?
i don't see why this is unreasonable. it does imply mistrust, so it would be worth having a respectful conversation to ascertain that it's not based on that.


Should safe words not be used eventually?

Personally, it wasn't a moment where Master said 'you don't have a safe word now, you don't get a say in what we do'. It built up eventually with the increasing control He had, in time, i couldn't seperate what i wanted from my desire to please Him-- it was like, He was asking, 'have you had enough?' and my only answer would be 'if You have'. Of course, for this to happen, He had to become so perfect in analysing my body language that He can tell when i've had enough, how i will react, regardless of what i say. it isn't an immediate thing, by any means.

Should hard limits be pushed or ignored eventually?

As i've just said, for me, it's more a case of realising that i don't have any hard limits for Him to push any more. Trusting that whatever He does is not going to harm me, and being able to give everything. If He wants it, it will be done, and that means that none of my limits are 'hard'. i wish i could make that easy to understand, but it isn't!

Should your Dom/me get to choose your sexual orientation?

Interesting question, Master and i have not discussed it. i hope somebody else has some good answers!


Once the collar is on do you give up everything or are there still things that should be left private to the slave?

i'm not sure if this applies to your dynamic, because as you say, you're a 'slave in training'. i didn't have this middle ground. i went from a training submissive, to a submissive, to His slave, when we both realised that's where we were headed. We didn't start out intending me to become His slave, it just ended up like that! After i was collared we were still taking things slowly. Master would always err on the edge of caution when it came to limits and safewords, and continues to check in when He's unsure of where i'm at, emotionally or physically.