How much control do you give up?

[naughtyminx]

I agree.

And on the password question...wouldn't giving up email passwords so your Dominant can read your email violate the expectation of privacy that anyone who communicates with you would have?

That is a very good point. I actually have 2 accounts. One for my family and friends and the other is my 'kink' account. He only asked for my kink account passwords as he does not want to interfere with the other.

[jeanne]

That is a very good point. I actually have 2 accounts. One for my family and friends and the other is my 'kink' account. He only asked for my kink account passwords as he does not want to interfere with the other.

Why is the 'kink' account different? For me, I too have my 'kink' account. But, I have friends I have become very close to, both in my local community and from here, that I communicate with using that account. I may ask advice, or respond to their requests for same, I may discuss something that is going on in my relationship, in order to get feedback...and I don't want to share that process with Him. And, I think it's wrong that a Dominant would expect me to be a completely open book. For example, I attend a monthly submissive's meeting. Does He know that I go? Yes. Do we sometimes talk about the general topics in each month's meeting? Yes. But, He and I both consider that to be "mine", and I get to choose how much to tell Him about that meeting and what is said. I must consider the privacy expectations of the other attendees, as well as my own need for privacy.

I simply don't agree with the sharing of email passwords under any circumstances. That's just my opinion, of course.

[Ozme52]

That is a very good point. I actually have 2 accounts. One for my family and friends and the other is my 'kink' account. He only asked for my kink account passwords as he does not want to interfere with the other.

Before the crash of 2009, there was a private sub-forum (pun intended) here called the Womb, which will no doubt be reinstituted. Do you intend to get yet a third account or just not join? Because it's the place where all the subs who choose to can discuss their concerns, share, and ask for advice.

So... are you telling all the members of the Womb that should you join, the Womb is no longer a safe place for them to talk because your dom has access?

It's not a trivial matter.