Good luck, Buttons.

I hope James is just being nervous/anxious about putting a real start to his/yours bdsm wishes.

It might also be the case that he is very private about it. I am with someone at the moment that does not like any kind of groups/activities in the "bdsm community" - he likes to keep his affairs very privately - but, trust me, that doesn't mean he's not into it! Not at all!

Well, I hope it'll work out for the best for you!

And keep us posted!

Hugs,