Well as a slave I can tell you who doesnt control or direct things. lol

Honestly, you want me to top you from the bottom I will, just dont expect me to respect you for it in the morning. Winks.

As for equality, smh, in actual reality there really isnt such a thing, its an abstract consept.

You wish to say the sub is in charge becuase she can revoke her consent, more power to you, but I say the dominant has just as much power in that regard, he or she doesnt have to acccept your submission to them, they too are perfectly capable of packing up their toys and going home or choosing to "play" with another instead.

So if the sub really wants to be dominated, one must be able to recognize such consepts in reality dont apply to the equation, at least not during execution for the most part.

Ive never had a safe word for telling a dominant, "ow quit it, I dont feel like it today not that way," the safe word (when used at all) to my understanding, at least in the manner in which I was trainned, is primarally a tool used by novices to (or brand new couples) help avoid permament damage of ones submissive and not a "fall back theoretical tool" used as part of the power exchange dynamic by the sub against the dominant.