Time, patience with yourself, and a partner who knows whatīs going on inside your mind were the things that helped me. All of them together.
And even having all that, it was extremely hard for me.
At times I actually tried to push him out of my life just because my feelings for him and the way he was able to influence me, or rather my own willingness to submit under his control (which had never happened to me that way before, never once), scared the shit out of me.
Sometimes I donīt know how heīs been surviving the now almost 12 years with me. *lol*