PMS and submissiveness

[fetishdj]

And this is why it is not a good idea to point it out... my experience (which is extensive 'from the other side') is that the best course of action is to not mention it, let her get on with whatever she needs to do, take the 'slings and arrows' in good grace as and when needed (you can store up the bad karma to throw back later if you like, but punishment during the period tends to be a bad idea - this is time for caring Dom not stern Dom) and basically ride out the storm. If she mentions it, then discuss it but keep the caring vibes on.

And I do repeat my advice from earlier - if the symptoms are really unbearable, to the extent you cannot live a normal life and are in fact taking time off work for it, a doctor should be seen as there are ways to minimise it a lot. Trust me, I have seen this to be true in person.

[Missy_Me]

That's an amazing post, badkitty!

I suffer from HORRIBLE PMS and although I know how incredibly hard it must be to put up with me, I do expect/wish a certain type of behavior from my Dom. And what fetishdj said is basically what works for me:

(you can store up the bad karma to throw back later if you like, but punishment during the period tends to be a bad idea - this is time for caring Dom not stern Dom) and basically ride out the storm. If she mentions it, then discuss it but keep the caring vibes on.

Also, as he said, the symptoms got better when I was on the pill, but I don't want to deal with its side-effects (which are strong for me, affecting even my sexual drive).

Communication during PMS is seriously in danger and I try my best to avoid discussing ANY subject that has medium importance. If it can wait a couple of days, than I shut my mouth and wait. It's hard, it's taken years of trying and I haven't perfected it yet, but I'm really proud of myself afterwards.
I just focus on relaxing, doing something for the pain and blowziness and receiving all the caring I can. No punishment, no spanking and, most of all, NO ORDERS! Don't tell me what to do!!! lol

So yeah, your Dom seems to know what he is doing if you feel comforted by his dominance. I hope the next PMS will be easier and I also hope you can deal with your grief in a comforting manner too.