I agree with you.
The only difference is that I would not like having another woman top me - the few times that I've tried it, I've actually started laughing, which was decidedly counter productive, and embarassing for her.
I like to be dominant in f/f relationships, and I can get pretty vicious too - so I prefer a woman who's a diehard painslut.
Also, when a man who's Domming me decides to bring other subs in the mix, I don't like to be equal to any of the others... I discovered I'm an alpha , and I was very happy in the situation where I answered to Him, and the other women answered to me as well as Him.
Good times were had by all...