To answer the main thread...
My husband and I have been progressively taking things to new levels in our new bdsm life. We only do sessions on occassion, and when we do I'm his Mistress. At first I was very squeemish. I had no idea what I was doing in our bedroom play, and when he expressed his desire to be humiliated I was scared. Terrified that I would mentally break him or that he'd hate me for name calling him, but the more I thought about it the more I realized I wasn't really embracing the Domme side of me. Because from the first time he told me about his desires I was soaking wet with desire. When I finally decided to go all out and humiliate him... There's a switch that's flipped inside me when I'm his Mistress. I go from being my strong independant self with a dead end job and a house to clean and a son to take care of and trying to be the perfect wife.... And I just let go. I let everything that's going on with me mentally/physically and I become this sexual sadist/predator that doesn't give a fuck what any one person wants. That totally focuses on what I want and then allow my bitch to do a small thing that he wants. Like undo one hand from the bed restraints so he can touch me for 5 secinds wherever he wants after I've face fucked him until he almost vomits. Or allow him to choose where he's tied down when he comes after I've fucked his ass with a strap on until he cried making me climax so hard I had to take a 3 minute break and leave him tied up bent over our hotel bed. I have done/said things while being Mistress that I had NO CLUE I even knew about. Like cucking... I had no idea how hot I thought it would be until he was gagged and bound, and I was whispering wickedly how the only thing he would ever be good for is my fluffer. I love how much trust he has in me that I won't go too far, and at the same time hopes I do new things and go too far. It makes me feel like an even stronger person. I'm on such a power high that I can't come down for days.

Hope that helped


Quote Originally Posted by damyanti View Post
How do you as dom/mes handle and or deal with the responsibility (of being one)? Does it ever get too much? Or do you enjoy it, responsibility and or control?
Right before a session I am damn near always scared. Even though I know he wants me to do wixked things to him, there's always a small fear that I'll be in control when something goes wrong. That's always scary. But it also adds to the build up of the whole thing. Just because We Dom/es walk around with confidence and act like we know eactly what we're going to do, doesn't mean we don't love our subs and don't worry for them.