Hugggs lisa

You are absolutely right, now isnt the time to run out and find just anyone sugar.

Being hurt, tortured and humiliated isnt going to solve your problems. It may fill an urge, but you have to ask yourself, why exactly you have that paticular urge and understand it before you proceed to bring it to any kind of frutition. Especially if you think its linked to your experience.

I allways seriously reccomend finding a kink friendly therapist in real life, they can be hard to find, but well worth the effort; especially for those of us with limited outside support and even if kink friendly support cannot be found you do need to have some form of support outside of the internet in real life even if its vanila etc.

For me it was a great help to have someone to lean on in the lifestyle; one who was willing to help me grow stronger and coax my submission forth with wisdom and support me as I continue to recover along my journey. I was lucky in that regard, very lucky.

I shall pray that you can find some peace in your own efforts and I am so very sorry that your relationship is ending, but I can say when one door closes another can be opened. I hope you can take the time to find yourself and look forward to a better day, try to see this as an oportunity as opposed to something thats only bad.

Have faith my sister you are not alone.