Demanding jobs and BDSM

[symphony]

I find that the busier I am, the more vanilla my sex gets.

I know how that feels but from the other side, my sir has a very busy day so when hes tired things can get difficult. One of the best things to do is recognise that it doesnt say anything bad about you or him, sometimes life just get in the way. Pressure is your enemy, if your tired and had a bad day at work and then say to yourself "If i dont have good sex tonight it will have been....# days" then your not doing yourself any favours. Try and make other things more important, serving in other ways then it will get easier. Thats what did it for us anyways.

If there's anyone here with really busy work schedules (like, wake up at 6am and back home at 8pm or so), I'd love to hear how you fit BDSM into it. Only on weekends, perhaps?

I used to think like that, but your looking at it all upside down. If you are truely submissive at heart then why are you trying to fit BDSM into your life work etc? you should be trying to fit your life into BDSM if you know what I mean.

I hope you find all that useful because it really helped me, just changing the way I was looking at things helped make the problems seem smaller and when things diddnt seem like such a problem I felt like I had more energy, and things worked better.

Oh and on a side note, you dont have to have hours and hours to have a good time, sometimes being pinned against a wall when your not expecting it when you get back from work can be just as fun