Depends, before my husband/owner went on active duty it was once or twice a month or so that we had what I would call anything really really long.

We would go back and do some suspension sessions and conditioning maintance training once a week or so if possible but only get super rough or intence like above.

The body needs time to recover, and I can't be running around covered in bruises at work and school, especially when I am dancing.

The rest of the time its mainly little things here and there like I was saying earlier in the thread, things that are easily hidden from any visitors we may have or from my mother (I am her home care provider) but we still have sex in the privecy of our bedroom a few times a week, though a lot of people may say its just D/s vanila sex since we are not doing any whips and chains per say.

Now we have a tendencey to try more often when he is home from deployments, but sometimes he just isnt into it when he first gets home and needs time to adjust, so we wait and keep things more laid back and have recently only been doing anything heavy just once if at all between deployments or on special anually scheduled get togethers with our kink friendly group of friends.

Though like I was saying earlier we have also had times where bdsm things had to take a backseat to other things going on in our lives.

Which is ok with me, it doesnt change my submission in any way to him.