Quote Originally Posted by Secret_Salope View Post
I just worry that he's abusing his kids. Since he progressively quit playing all together, I wonder if he got better. I feel bad for him. Which I'm sure sounds odd, but he had a much harder life than me growing up, and mine was no walk in the park. I always wondered if he got better. If he ever thought about me or my sister.

I've talked to my sister about all of this numerous times. She knows we played a game with him, but she doesn't remember any details. She was 2. Her abuse quit way before mine. Maybe because she was so small. idk
The thing is, he might not have the same symptoms as you, and now you are asking yourself if he is abusing his children. The only way to find out would be to ask him, and quite frankly my personal view is that that would not be the best way of making friends. Something more that you should remember is that he stopped of his own accord, and as you have said in your previous post, you instigated him to start once more. He might just have stopped because his maturity and guilt for what he had been doing had kicked in. By bringing him into the equation at this time in both your lives, could mean him loosing his children and his wife, and for not doing any of the things to his children that you are thinking. On the other hand, I can understand why you feel and think this way, but you would be dammed if you do, and damned if you don’t. I have said it before in my previous post, forget him because he is your demon, and all the time you think of the things that took place; then you will never be at peace with yourself. Not all children that are abused or are the abuser stay that way in adult life, as some do change. Just more of my thoughts, but I have now probably confused you more than helped, but your therapist if you find a good one will say some of the same things.

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