I had set a hard limit more than once right from the beginning. Not okay with multiple partners from either of us. Thank you, I should have been more specific. Although I am new to the lifestyle, I am very aware of what is right and wrong on a human level. It was the consensual part that felt breached as I had not agreed to this. I think I needed a confirmation that what I felt was not being unfair. That I wasn't 'missing' something along the way. Thank you so much for your help.