On The Realities of 24/7

[bluefarie]

This is a wonderful post and i'm so glad it got bumped so i saw it! In addition to all of these challenges, the child part is often the hardest for Master and myself.

How much is too much in front of the child? What should i call Master in front of the very inquisitive 3 year old who repeats everything he hears?! Did i remember to lock the bedroom door after said child went to sleep so he doesn't acidently walk in on something? *phew* thank god i did! lol What do you mean there isn't crazy 2 plus hour bdsm sessions every night after junior goes to bed?!

How are chores divided up if the slave works and the Master isn't able to or if B/both are working? Is it reasonable to expect said slave who works all day to come home, clean, do laundry, cook, take care of the child, etc and then be physically and emotionally ready to be used at the Master's whim?

How do you transition from the every day vanilla duties and baggage back to Master/slave? (btw this is very important emotionally for both parties)

What if Master gets sick or slave gets sick or child gets sick?!

These are just a few things to consider as well, just like any other relationship, there are many things to take into account. This type of relationship can be and is very rewarding, but does take a lot of effort, but that's most successful relationships!

Congrats to all of those making it work for them, though! Master and i are still adjusting and tweaking things and are quite happy that this doesn't have to be just a fantasy anymore.

bluefarie, very happily owned and engaged to Master Archeon

[Ozme52]

This is a wonderful post and i'm so glad it got bumped so i saw it! In addition to all of these challenges, the child part is often the hardest for Master and myself.

How much is too much in front of the child? What should i call Master in front of the very inquisitive 3 year old who repeats everything he hears?!

Always an interesting question. Lot's of vanillas use Papa or Daddy as if it were a name. It encourages the child to do so too, as a child using a first name is often seen as inappropriate. (If this is this a pre-existing child and an incoming step-parent, that may be less of an issue.) Some have suggested pet names... and foreign pet names for "Master" may work for you. Pet diminuatives are easier. He can call easily call you by any number of pet names, including pet if that works, and not be unusual.

Did i remember to lock the bedroom door after said child went to sleep so he doesn't acidently walk in on something? *phew* thank god i did! lol What do you mean there isn't crazy 2 plus hour bdsm sessions every night after junior goes to bed?!

A problem that is no different for vanilla couples... and you have identified the solution. Locks.

How are chores divided up if the slave works and the Master isn't able to or if B/both are working? Is it reasonable to expect said slave who works all day to come home, clean, do laundry, cook, take care of the child, etc and then be physically and emotionally ready to be used at the Master's whim?

My personal answer to this is "Yes". Hopefully he will be the type to share some of this... but perhaps it will be in a manner other than a division of labors. Maybe he likes to cook... or fold... or swab. Maybe he doesn't but likes grocery shopping. My spouse hates reconciling the checkbook, doing the taxes, some tasks can't be divied up on a day-by-day basis, so be aware of those things you each do that fall into monthly or annual cycles too. Snow shoveling? Yardwork? Brits love their gardens. (Of course, he may require that of you too. The life of a slave. sigh. )

How do you transition from the every day vanilla duties and baggage back to Master/slave? (btw this is very important emotionally for both parties)

You know... I honestly think this isn't a problem if there is that over-arching presence of his dominion and your submission. It flows, waxes, and wanes as needed.

What if Master gets sick or slave gets sick or child gets sick?!

These are just a few things to consider as well, just like any other relationship, there are many things to take into account. This type of relationship can be and is very rewarding, but does take a lot of effort, but that's most successful relationships!

Congrats to all of those making it work for them, though! Master and i are still adjusting and tweaking things and are quite happy that this doesn't have to be just a fantasy anymore.

bluefarie, very happily owned and engaged to Master Archeon

You've answered your own questions. You (both) make it work by working at it. Not taking any part of it for granted.

[Ozme52]

You know... I honestly think this isn't a problem if there is that over-arching presence of his dominion and your submission. It flows, waxes, and wanes as needed.

Ahhh, I love it.

Even when it's unintentional, I'm funny.

[bluefarie]

Oz, i see your puns and they are in deed punny! LOL...i meant these questions to be more rhetorical for people entering this type of relationship, but thank you very much for your lovely answers!

These are just some of the things that Master and i faced while living together for His stay here and i'm quite sure there will be more tweaks and fine tunings along the way!


Bluefarie, very happily owned and engaged to Master Archeon