Took me a couple of days, but I'm glad I found this thread.

My katze and I are often very busy, with schedules that don't align. Katze has a 6am to 3pm day, and I've a 9am to 6pm job, and as said above, after decompressing, cooking, the work week is completely out.

I agree with the idea of linking things we do with D/s. We enjoy board games, and play in various groups. So, we spiced it up, by setting penalties and rewards depending on games lost and won by my little slut.

We've also taken a couple of weekends a year, booked into a good hotel, and then brought a big bag of toys with us.