Tojo,

So glad to see you went and made this thread. Already it seems like a great one.

For me one of the biggest myths was that any BDSM activities were meant to be all serious and that the dom/me ruled and made all decisions on what went on. What I now am learning is that it can be fun, lots of fun and that if the dom/me knows what they are doing, the sub has a lot of say in what happens.