Amen indeed. Some excellent replies in this thread.

I particularly like the one from arwcuw- been there....

Sure glad I don't have to give a prize for 'best response' - I'd go crazy.

One of the biggest myths I've read about when I first started reading about it was that a sub has no right to say no...which now I realize is total bs lol
katie that is NOT a myth....

Especially not where you're concerned my pretty.

Tojo