Thanks everyone for all the encouragement, it's really helped me out a lot. It's probably going to be hard going for a little while but at least I have people who care online and off. I spent the day reconnecting with a friend who had been lied to by him and lied about to me - it was a day of unraveling knots and having fun too.

-To JDs, the first thing my new Dom friend wanted to do was set limits and negotiate! It was great to have that experience after having so little control. People outside of 'us' don't realize how much control a sub has in a session - they think that we only want our control taken away completely!