Choosing your own punishment?

[13'sbadkitty]

That is why I no longer let subs choose for themselves. Too harsh, too cruel, too self damaging. Learned that long ago now.

Besides... my personal disappointment is often punishment enough. Letting it show is worse. And if something physical is required, it's required because I need something. Why would I let her choose my appeasement?

i would have to say that when He is disappointed i crumble inside,
although there are times when He says when physical is what He wishes something like how many lashes and makes me count them out. i hate that because i never know if i pick if it is too much or too little and if it was too little....its amazing what can go through your head when you are in whipping position...