Spilling into vanilla life- at work!

[Jennifer Williams]

Fetish, thank you for your suggestion! I presented it to my sub exactly as you said, with an attitude of "there's this guy at work who thinks he can serve me". My sub reacted quite positively, actually- he asked me what sort of things the guy at work was doing, and then he told me how he could do it better, and it was actually a really big turn-on and we had a very nice night

As for confronting the male at work, I think I will continue to try to simply not respond as best as possible and see what happens. There hasn't been anything overly inappropriate so far, and now that my sub knows, I feel so much less guilty and now I think it will just make the day rather entertaining.

Well, when he said that he didn't tell it to me, personally, we were all talking in a group when he disclosed that information...

I'm curious. Was he the only male in that group?

Mostly; my male "supervisor" was there but he says very little to anyone and just does what I tell him; most of the rest of the office ignores him (and it's funny because my relationship with him is completely D/s, I guess, but in an entirely non-sexual way, completely platonic, he's married with a new baby), but other than him, yes, it was only females around, why, what were you thinking?

[fetishdj]

Fetish, thank you for your suggestion! I presented it to my sub exactly as you said, with an attitude of "there's this guy at work who thinks he can serve me". My sub reacted quite positively, actually- he asked me what sort of things the guy at work was doing, and then he told me how he could do it better, and it was actually a really big turn-on and we had a very nice night

I think it is because males are always competitive and if you can channel that into a safe outlet then it makes things easier Glad it helped, anyway...

As for confronting the male at work, I think I will continue to try to simply not respond as best as possible and see what happens. There hasn't been anything overly inappropriate so far, and now that my sub knows, I feel so much less guilty and now I think it will just make the day rather entertaining.

Probably wise if it is not that overt. Just bear in mind that it could border on official harrassment (from either direction) so at some point, if it gets more overt, you may have to take pre-emptive steps.

[chuck]

...why, what were you thinking?

I was trying to get an insight to his motivation. i.e. is he turned on by being the 'gopher' in an office of women? It's a common submissive fantasy. Another male in the group when he made his disclosure changes the dynamics.

My concern is that he is getting wrapped up in fantasy and may put his (and your) profession in jeopardy. There is a chance that his vanilla partner will get hurt if he gets carried away.