Quote Originally Posted by Eastern Pearl View Post
IMHO, if it is an interaction that you can not let your partner know about, then it is inappropriate, regardless the format (physical, emotional, flirting, instant messaging, texting, twittering, or platonic lunch dates with a coworker) of the interaction. Whether that constitutes as infidelity, only you and your partner can decide that.
That doesn't apply to all open relationships. Many people prefer to not discuss their partners' liasons but don't per se have a problem with the concept of partners.

And tell me you don't have at least one confidante whom you share secrets with... secrets that you "prefer" not to tell a partner. Or does your answer discriminate between general secrets and secrets of an amourous nature?

Some would say that lunchtime gossip amongst girlfriends is far more insidious and potentially destructive to a partnership than an affair.

Oz <<== known among the membership to have a long standing "Don't Ask - Don't Tell" open marriage. (in case you were curious about the subtext of my commentary.)