Yeah, That's a pretty sad story to say the least. Unfortunately it's not uncommon which gives the whole BDSM community an bad reputation(Main reason) why the Vanilla world looks down upon us. They think we're all about abusing people, inflicting pain and beatings etc and as a whole, That's not condoned in the BDSM community.

Here's a few more myths:



Once you start playing BDSM games you will want more and more and engage in increasingly risky and dangerous play.

It is true that newcomers are often like kids in candy shops. After all, they are discovering new things and the feelings associated with them. But most people find who they are in the scene, and enjoy staying there. They might experiment and even find out new things about themselves, but stay centered.

BDSM = Sex


BDSM can be intensely sensual, but it doesn't have to be intensely sexual. To say that sex never occurs in BDSM is a lie. It's just that it doesn't have to. Many people have wonderful, leave you limp, experiences without any sexual contact at all. Also, being in the scene doesn't mean you are going to get laid. Finally, if you use your position in the scene to coerce sex, non consensually, see What BDSM isn't.